The Myth of 50/50 Teachers and parents drum it into us from a young age: relationships are 50/50. When conflict arises, we assume both people must sit down and "meet in the middle." But what happens when the other person refuses to budge? When they show zero interest...

There’s a quiet thought many people carry in relationships: “Why does this feel so hard?” You care about the person. You want things to be good between you. And yet… There are too many moments of tension. Misunderstandings that seem to come out of nowhere....

At the start of a new year, there’s often a subtle pressure in the air. To set goals. To map the year. To know exactly what you’re working towards. And if you don’t? It can feel as though you’re already falling behind. Let me be clear - planning itself isn’t a...

🌿 Have You Celebrated What You’ve Done? It’s so easy to get caught up in what still needs to be done that we forget to celebrate how far we’ve already come. We’re often focused on the next goal, the next task, the next thing to tick off. We forget to pause and notice...

Comfort can feel like a warm blanket on a cold night - familiar, safe, and deeply reassuring. But here’s the truth no one likes to admit: comfort has a cost. I’ve seen it in my own life. I’ve spent hours - sometimes days - researching, planning, waiting for the “right...

Theodore Roosevelt said “ Comparison is the thief of Joy”. It’s so true, because making comparisons takes us out of what’s here right now, and into the past, or into someone else’s life as a benchmark of where we think we should be, or of what we should be enjoying....

Are you working Hard but not getting what you Want? Here’s Why. If you’ve been working hard for ages and wonder why you’re not where you want to be, you’re not alone. For years, I believed that success only came through relentless effort and long hours. But despite my...

Have you ever worked hard towards a goal, only to find yourself stuck, frustrated, and wondering, “What’s the point?” Maybe you’ve even asked yourself, “Am I asking for too much?” A client recently shared those feelings. They’d been putting in plenty of effort, but...

I’ve just been on an amazing Soul Safari in Africa. What I learned about myself and human behaviour was deeply enriched by my experience of the African people, including the children. We were privileged to attend a ceremony where the men from the community returned...

Do the scary thing….The rewards are so much greater than doing the comfortable, easy thing. What is it that you do when you’re avoiding something that you know is important to do to achieve a goal you’d love, that’s a bit scary? My default is tidying, getting...