🌿 Have You Celebrated What You’ve Done?
It’s so easy to get caught up in what still needs to be done that we forget to celebrate how far we’ve already come.
We’re often focused on the next goal, the next task, the next thing to tick off. We forget to pause and notice what’s already working, what we’ve already built, and how much we’ve already grown.
One of the big reasons we can miss this is because of unrealistic expectations – often based on comparisons with others we admire.
I know this personally. As a mother of three, I often compared myself to my own mother, who raised nine children. I thought: If she could manage nine, surely I should be more organised and calm with only three!
It was only when I took a closer look that I realised how different our circumstances were.
When my mother was raising kids, Sundays were a day of rest. There was no rushing from sports games to birthday parties or racing to the shops. Life was simpler – there was time to breathe. Meals were straightforward, and kids played outside for hours without needing to be shuttled around.
Meanwhile, my days involved more driving to activities, managing endless to-do lists, and handling countless little details that didn’t even exist in my mother’s world.
When we compare ourselves to someone else – without seeing the differences in our situations – we set ourselves up to feel like we’re failing, no matter how much we’re actually doing.
It’s a trap.
And if you’ve ever managed a team or raised children, you’ll know: constant criticism and lack of acknowledgement drains motivation and breeds resentment. It’s no different when we do it to ourselves.
When I started to look at my mother’s world versus mine, I was able to let go of the pedestal I’d put her on – and see my own mothering in a fairer, more loving light.
I could see the incredible things I’ve done and hold love for all that she did.
That balance brought a deep sense of appreciation and gratitude – for her, and for me.
🌱 So here’s my invitation to you:
- Look at the area of your life where you feel like you’re not measuring up.
- Ask yourself: Whose standard am I using? Who am I comparing myself to?
- Recognise the differences in your circumstances.
- Acknowledge how much you’ve actually done.
Then ask: What would I love to create for myself next?
Because the more you appreciate who you are and what you’ve already done, the more energy and clarity you’ll have to create the next chapter you truly want.
🌿If you’re ready to let go of unrealistic standards and start living from your heart, send me a message and let’s chat. I love helping people ready to do more of what they love.